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"Serpent" <t…@none.com> wrote in message news:jf9sr0pflaebfej106j26krvfcplab5qa5@4ax.com… > Greetings! > With all due respect…have you sought the services of a Councilor or > Psychiatrist??? I’m totally serious.
No, I don’t believe they’d be of any use at all. I’ve tried hypnotherapy but it didn’t work. Others I know who tried it who it did work for, the fix was only temporary. > I have NEVER experienced ANY discrimination from ANYBODY with my BTE > aids. Indeed, I told my co-workers in advance about getting aids, and > was actually disappointed in talking to each one for about an hour, > that they simply DID NOT notice, and I actually had to point them > out!!!
When I wore my NHS BTE aid, due to it being a poor analogue one, I had to keep asking people to speak up. They did for maybe 5~10 minutes and then went back to normal. > Am I a total FREAK in wearing BTE’s and having absolutely no problems,
No, I’m genuinely glad for you
> or are am I in the distinct minority, and the vast majority of > "VISIBLE BTE" wearers are having "problems and prejudices"???
Ah. the old Usenet problem. People who are perfectly happy with their aids will not feel the need to seek out a newsgroup offering advice and support. Hence most of the people in here are not perfectly happy and are seeking advice (on replacement aids or adjustments) or support. Therefore we’ll see far fewer "I’ve got XYZ aids and they’re great" posts and more of "I’ve got a problem with ABC aids"… Richard
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"Dave Smith" <d…@djms.JUNKME.net> wrote in message news:pan.2004.12.15.02.02.17.600242@djms.JUNKME.net… > On Mon, 13 Dec 2004 08:21:26 +0000, Richard Wood wrote: > > Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in > > public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices > > that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me > > extreme self conciousness. > You are who you are, deal with it. Set an appt with a doctor as others > have suggested.
I’m happily dealing with it by wearing CICs. > Tell them to drop it down a few decibels. I do it all the time. Nobody > minds, despite what you might think. Up a few, down a few, it’s not as > big of a deal to them as you might think.
Do you not find that if you ask them to talk quieter or louder they only do so for 5~10 minutes and you need to ask them again? > "…cause they think I can’t hear"… hate to point out the obvious, but > YOU CANT HEAR.
But if I had BTE, and good hearing through them, I could hear. I am sure that the vast majority of the public are not aware that modern hearing aids can give us hearing reasonably close to perfect. They still think of the ancient National Health Service clunky aids that helped only very slightly, that were only fitted to severely deaf people because they were that bad, that you had to still shout at to be heard. Does anyone else agree with this? > You’re only disappointing yourself here. Haven’t you ever wondered how > many interesting people/conversations you’ve passed up on because you > wouldn’t take the first step and talk to them?
Loads, and looking back on my life I hate myself for being like that. > Besides, if they don’t want > to talk to you, are you sure you want to talk to them?
Yes. Feeling totally alone in a crowded room… > That’s your choice. I hate turtleneck sweaters. But if it comes > down to me freezing my ass off like an idiot or wearing a > turtleneck sweater, I’ll take one in blue, please.
Heh, that made me laugh! > Richard, I lost my hearing when I was 6 months away from my 21st birthday. > I was in the prime of my life and within hours I was deaf (got sick). > I’d love to be in your shoes
Ditto here. I’d have given anything to have been able to go through school without all the taunting and bullying. Its always stayed with me. My dad went blind over the course of 5 years or so. With close friends who know this, we’ve talked about what would be worse; being blind since birth, and so never seeing anything, so you don’t know what you’re missing; going blind instantaneously; or going blind slowly. Its something thats impossible to answer, but if someone asked me before I was born I’d pick the latter. > You’re gonna be deaf for quite some time. Life doesn’t end because of it. > Get the best ears you can buy and make amends with it. Life goes on man…
BTEs might give me slightly better hearing, better directionality, but for me by far the better choice is CICs. They’ve turned my life around. That may be because I’ve got other problems, but the end result is the same. I can enjoy life. Richard
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In article <cpu8kf$5v…@server.localdomain>, "Richard Wood" <ne…@ukrm.co.uk> wrote: > First of all I’d like to say that seeing the replies of people all disagreeing > with me has made me very happy, its good to know that a lot of you > can completely ignore the fact you wear these things and lead a normal > life.
Personally, since I’ve had my BTEs (and yeah, I’m a geezer) I’ve come to believe that there are a LOT of people who think they can hear well who really have problems hearing. This is especially true, I think, of baby boomers. I’ve come to believe that every annual medical exam should include a hearing test. Anyway, if I had my choice, my BTEs would be fluorescent yellow and have little Harley-Davidson wings that I could extend and even flap. I would LOVE that. -ahem- Any manufacturers listening?
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -bido wrote: > hi all, > i am a 30 y/o male with hearing impairement. i inherited this issue > from my dad who is also HOH (I am the youngest of 4 children, the > other 3 are fine). my hearing started to manfiest when i was 10 y/o > and I started wearing a hearing aid on my right ear when i was around > 14 (the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing > aids). i started with a viennatone one then moved to a starkey and > then another analog CIC starkey since 98 (it died yesterday after > breaking down twice before but fixed). my hearing has deterioted over > the years especially the last few ones. yesterday, my new audiologiest > here in montreal called me (one hour before the old hearing aid broke > down!) to inform me that the digital hearing aid that i ordered few > weeks ago is ready (a starkey as well). the audiologist recommended > that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t > bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted > that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the > hearing aid. i am trying the hearing aid now and I am very > disappointed! to the point that i am seriously depressed. i don’t see > any difference at all comparing to the analog one. actually, right > now, the sounds that i need to hear i either hear them very low or not > at all while useless sounds like when typing on the keyboard or the > sound of something that falls on the floor is so loud it is giving me > a headache. the hearing aid comes with a small button that let’s you > cycle through 3 different programs. that’s another joke, i actually > wonder if they ever tested it. other than the 1st program which the > default, i can’t pretty much hear anything with the other 2. > if this is what hearing aids companies got to invent after all these > years then i think they should all get fired.
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bearc…@cruller.invalid wrote: > Anyway, if I had my choice, my BTEs would be fluorescent yellow and have > little Harley-Davidson wings that I could extend and even flap. I would > LOVE that. > -ahem- Any manufacturers listening?
Here you go…
:) http://earwearinc.com/catgD.html — Patricia Burns (to reply via email…address has only one "s")
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I too have quite often see great numbers of people at the restaurant doors waiting for a BTE wearer to come by so they could heckle him. I think there are clubs one can join to get in on the fun. Get real, dude. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in >public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices >that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me >extreme self conciousness. >I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me >cause they think I can’t hear.
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On Wed 19 Jan 2005 05:06:20p, Old Martian tittered and giggled, and giggled and tittered, and finally blurted out… > I too have quite often see great numbers of people at the restaurant > doors waiting for a BTE wearer to come by so they could heckle him.
Did you also notice that many of them are wearing CICs? <G> – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I think there are clubs one can join to get in on the fun. > Get real, dude. >>Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in >>public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices >>that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me >>extreme self conciousness. >>I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me cause >>they think I can’t hear.
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On Mon, 13 Dec 2004 08:21:26 +0000, Richard Wood wrote: > Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in > public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices > that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me > extreme self conciousness.
You are who you are, deal with it. Set an appt with a doctor as others have suggested. > I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me > cause they think I can’t hear.
Tell them to drop it down a few decibels. I do it all the time. Nobody minds, despite what you might think. Up a few, down a few, it’s not as big of a deal to them as you might think. "…cause they think I can’t hear"… hate to point out the obvious, but YOU CANT HEAR. > I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they > think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person.
Prove them wrong then. Hold the conversation as anyone else would. You’re only disappointing yourself here. Haven’t you ever wondered how many interesting people/conversations you’ve passed up on because you wouldn’t take the first step and talk to them? Besides, if they don’t want to talk to you, are you sure you want to talk to them? > I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf.
Again, prove them wrong then. Hold your conversation with them like there’s nothing different. Ask them to bump it up or down a few notches if you need to, but speak smart and you’ll come across smart. But to do this, you HAVE to talk to people. > I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its > absolutely necessary cause I hate the things.
That’s your choice. I hate turtleneck sweaters. But if it comes down to me freezing my ass off like an idiot or wearing a turtleneck sweater, I’ll take one in blue, please. <snip> > Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids > are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing > them have a hell of a life. Anything that prevents that is a good > thing.
Richard, I lost my hearing when I was 6 months away from my 21st birthday. I was in the prime of my life and within hours I was deaf (got sick). I’d love to be in your shoes, hearing problems since birth. Try dealing with hearing to no-hearing in a matter of hours and then tell me about it being hard. At the time, I was a single, 20 year old airmen in the US Air Force, living it up every day and night. Always a party to be had, always women to party with. Guess what? Life doesn’t end when you wear BTEs. I’m now 25, very successful, in a long term relationship, and I’ve started my own highly successful business. I go out several times a week with my hearing friends. They don’t care about my BTEs. I talk to everyone I meet, they don’t care either. You’re gonna be deaf for quite some time. Life doesn’t end because of it. Get the best ears you can buy and make amends with it. Life goes on man… –Dave
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Hearing better leads to talking better. People react to unusual speech more than they do to the sight of hearing aids. Hear as well as you can. Get hearing aids that will enable you to hear and speak as well as possible. Bill M
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"Steve B." <prettyg…@everything.com.au> wrote in message news:BDE3C40D.48834%prettygood@everything.com.au… > Richard Wood said: > > Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in > > public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices > > that a lot of members of the public would have about me,giving me > > extreme self conciousness. > I lot of us seem to get by okay wearing BTE aids. I’m not aware of "the > problems and prejudices that a lot of members of the public would have about > me". Am I thick or are you perhaps assuming things that may not be true?
First of all I’d like to say that seeing the replies of people all disagreeing with me has made me very happy, its good to know that a lot of you can completely ignore the fact you wear these things and lead a normal life. i can’t remember at what age I started to wear aids since I’ve been hard of hearing since birth, I think it was about 7 or so. So yes, all through my secondary school the other kids tauted me, made up hurtful nicknames, bullied me, etc, etc, etc. Didn’t help the fact I also had NHS thick black glasses, was by far the tallest in class, had built up shoes for a while. That has had a *major* effect shaping my personality, I avoided contact with other people for the next 2 decades almost. > > I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me > > cause they think I can’t hear. > They don’t do that to me, though occasionally they seem to not mind if I ask > them to speak up or repeat themselves.
Someone comes up to you to talk, they notice you’re wearing aids and try to help by speaking up, but rather than just speak clearly and a bit louder, they almost shout. Had this happen numerous times with my BTE. > > I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they > > think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person. > You need to distinguish between deaf and hard of hearing. It _is_ really > difficulty to hold a conversation with a deaf person. If I’m honest, it’s > actually _me_ who avoids conversation more that others.
Ok, I’ll admit that this is probably me, as an aid wearer, doing the avoiding. > You only > appear stupid to people who _don’t_ know you have a hearing disability. The > rest know _that you didn’t respond (or responded inappropriately) because > you didn’t hear.
Correct. And if I have aids that give me good hearing I can hear what the people (who do not know I’m deaf) are saying. > > I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its > > absolutely necessary cause I hate the things. > That much is clear. Now, why do you hate the things that will improve your > hearing to a level where you can function reliably? I don’t hate my hearing > aids. Nor my glasses. Why is it such a big deal for you?
I don’t know. Reading back my original post and the replies has helped me think about it a lot more. I’ve been a loner all my life until very recently, no real idea why that is, but I strongly suspect it was being made to feel like a dumb freak for 7 years at school. I don’t just want to be able to hear well. I want to hear well and feel normal. The phsycological problem may be in my head, but its still a problem, and if a good pair of CICs can solve both (and they do, the new Oticon Sensos have arrived
that’s what I’ll wear. A couple of people have said why don’t I go and get therapy? Personally I see therapy as a huge bottomless black hole designed to suck money out of my wallet. I know a few people who have tried hypnotherapy, I have, but its only a temporary solution, the original problem re-appears. > I know that feeling. It’s hard when you have trouble haring and I now avoid > places where I know I won’t be able to have a conversation. But hearing aids > help.
Pubs/clubs/cinema, any noisy environment. A lot of the places people go to socialise. (I’m hoping my new aids will help in this respect) > Kids are horrible. They’ll do almost anything to upset other kids; hit them, > call them names, and yes, poke fun at their disabilities. If you had hearing > aids at school you probably suffered this and probably ‘learnt’ that > ‘people’ think there’s a stigma attached to wearing them. You’ve grown up, > perhaps those who used to poke fun at you have, too.
Quite likely, but the brain is growing and learning at that age, and something that’s learned very strongly can’t be "un learned". I just count my blessings every day that someone invented CICs
> Look, maybe there _is_ a stigma attached to being hard of hearing but I > think it’s borne mostly out of ignorance. As long as you agree that it’s > something to be embarrassed about, wear CIC’s which are no longer loud > enough so that people don’t notice your aids, wear flesh coloured aids (why > don’t we treat them like the frames of our glasses?) and generally try to > hide your hearing disability, then you reinforce the stigma.
If there was a surefire way of getting rid of the stigma which I accept is inside my head, then I’d go for it, and probably buy a pair of cool gadgety BTEs and paint "Rayban" on the side of them… > Agreed but kids are pretty sharp. They’ll soon notice CIC aids in the people > in their classroom. They need to learn that the wearing oh hearing aids is > not something to be ashamed of anymore than is the wearing of a pair of > glasses.
They’d notice them, but they’re not noticable all the time, so would soon be forgotten about. Disabilities that are visible all the time would remind kids about them and be "calling out" for the kids to poke fun at, if you see what I mean. Richard
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On the Contrary…with my BTE’s I hear fine, and am perfectly happy!!!
On Mon, 13 Dec 2004 18:09:16 -0600, "Kuta" <kuta0…@comcast.net> wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Do you see a psychiatrist? You appear to have many issues. >"Richard Wood" <ne…@ukrm.co.uk> wrote in message >news:cpjjbg$r3p$1@server.localdomain… >> "HEARA1" <hea…@aol.com> wrote in message >> news:20041212165853.06002.00001301@mb-m21.aol.com… >>> >Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. >>> >(well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much >>> >as possible) >>> >If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, >>> >I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" >>> >well >>> >enough" now and thats "good enough for me!" >>> Dear Richard, >>> It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle >>> for >>> "good enough". >>> I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never >>> settle >>> for "good enough"!! >> Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in >> public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices >> that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me >> extreme self conciousness. >> I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me >> cause they think I can’t hear. >> I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they >> think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person. >> I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf. >> I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its >> absolutely necessary cause I hate the things. >> I do not wish to walk round with a sign around my neck saying >> "Treat me like a normal bloody person, because I am!", cause >> thats what I often felt like doing. Either that or just giving up >> all together and becoming a work from home hermit who has >> no interaction with other people at all, cause its just too much >> hassle. >> When I got my CIC aids my whole life changed. On one side because >> I wasn’t self aware about them therefore I wear them all the time, >> giving me better hearing in all situations, and secondly because they >> were so much better than the NHS dinosaur, and I had two rather than >> one. >> For anyone who wears BTEs, isn’t bothered by how other people >> act & think and so wear them all the time, I’m glad for you and them. >> For people like me who have put up with the stigma of being >> obviously deaf since a young kid, given the choice of appearing >> "normal" with CICs, or still carrying round the deaf stigma and >> wearing BTEs and probably not wearing them a lot of the time >> (so being far more isolated from company), it is no choice >> (provided the hearing loss isn’t that profound so that CICs >> can still help me) >> Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids >> are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing >> them have a hell of a life. Anything that prevents that is a good >> thing. >> Richard
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Do you see a psychiatrist? You appear to have many issues. "Richard Wood" <ne…@ukrm.co.uk> wrote in message
news:cpjjbg$r3p$1@server.localdomain… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "HEARA1" <hea…@aol.com> wrote in message > news:20041212165853.06002.00001301@mb-m21.aol.com… >> >Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. >> >(well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much >> >as possible) >> >If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, >> >I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" >> >well >> >enough" now and thats "good enough for me!" >> Dear Richard, >> It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle >> for >> "good enough". >> I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never >> settle >> for "good enough"!! > Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in > public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices > that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me > extreme self conciousness. > I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me > cause they think I can’t hear. > I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they > think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person. > I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf. > I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its > absolutely necessary cause I hate the things. > I do not wish to walk round with a sign around my neck saying > "Treat me like a normal bloody person, because I am!", cause > thats what I often felt like doing. Either that or just giving up > all together and becoming a work from home hermit who has > no interaction with other people at all, cause its just too much > hassle. > When I got my CIC aids my whole life changed. On one side because > I wasn’t self aware about them therefore I wear them all the time, > giving me better hearing in all situations, and secondly because they > were so much better than the NHS dinosaur, and I had two rather than > one. > For anyone who wears BTEs, isn’t bothered by how other people > act & think and so wear them all the time, I’m glad for you and them. > For people like me who have put up with the stigma of being > obviously deaf since a young kid, given the choice of appearing > "normal" with CICs, or still carrying round the deaf stigma and > wearing BTEs and probably not wearing them a lot of the time > (so being far more isolated from company), it is no choice > (provided the hearing loss isn’t that profound so that CICs > can still help me) > Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids > are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing > them have a hell of a life. Anything that prevents that is a good > thing. > Richard
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Greetings! On Mon, 13 Dec 2004 08:21:26 -0000, "Richard Wood" <ne…@ukrm.co.uk> wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->"HEARA1" <hea…@aol.com> wrote in message news:20041212165853.06002.00001301@mb-m21.aol.com… >> >Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. >> >(well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much >> >as possible) >> >If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, >> >I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" well >> >enough" now and thats "good enough for me!" >> Dear Richard, >> It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle for >> "good enough". >> I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never settle >> for "good enough"!! >Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in >public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices >that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me >extreme self conciousness. >I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me >cause they think I can’t hear. >I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they >think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person. >I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf. >I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its >absolutely necessary cause I hate the things. >I do not wish to walk round with a sign around my neck saying >"Treat me like a normal bloody person, because I am!", cause >thats what I often felt like doing. Either that or just giving up >all together and becoming a work from home hermit who has >no interaction with other people at all, cause its just too much >hassle. >When I got my CIC aids my whole life changed. On one side because >I wasn’t self aware about them therefore I wear them all the time, >giving me better hearing in all situations, and secondly because they >were so much better than the NHS dinosaur, and I had two rather than >one. >For anyone who wears BTEs, isn’t bothered by how other people >act & think and so wear them all the time, I’m glad for you and them. >For people like me who have put up with the stigma of being >obviously deaf since a young kid, given the choice of appearing >"normal" with CICs, or still carrying round the deaf stigma and >wearing BTEs and probably not wearing them a lot of the time >(so being far more isolated from company), it is no choice >(provided the hearing loss isn’t that profound so that CICs >can still help me) >Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids >are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing >them have a hell of a life. Anything that prevents that is a good >thing. >Richard
Greetings! With all due respect…have you sought the services of a Councilor or Psychiatrist??? I’m totally serious. "Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices" To me…this is totally nutty!!! :-) I have NEVER experienced ANY discrimination from ANYBODY with my BTE aids. Indeed, I told my co-workers in advance about getting aids, and was actually disappointed in talking to each one for about an hour, that they simply DID NOT notice, and I actually had to point them out!!! Nor have I EVER had anybody act any differently to me while wearing my BTE hearing aids! I think that most of this "They see my aids, and are out to get me" response, is for the most part, totally in the head of the wearer! Am I a total FREAK in wearing BTE’s and having absolutely no problems, or are am I in the distinct minority, and the vast majority of "VISIBLE BTE" wearers are having "problems and prejudices"??? Best Regards, Serpent
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I have a "profound hearing loss", and wear BTE’s ’cause they do a better job for me than CIC or ITC…….they are the most powerful. They are also not that visible. My hearing loss developed in my late 40’s and early 50’s (I’m 56). Its resulted in numerous problems……job loss, relationship gone bad, and money problems. When I feel down about it, I try and think about those who are paralyzed, or missing limbs, or living in a cardboard box. Then I know I don’t have it so bad. Get yourself the right hearing aids, and don’t feel so vain or sorry for yourself.
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>Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. >(well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much >as possible) >If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, >I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" well >enough" now and thats "good enough for me!"
Dear Richard, It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle for "good enough". I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never settle for "good enough"!! HEARA1
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>(the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing >aids).
Why would anyone ever want to wear any aid, other that to function better? What would it hurt to really try using your whole BRAIN to communicate. What does your provider recommend? > recommended >that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t >bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted >that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the hearing
aid. >. i don’t see >any difference at all comparing to the analog one.
Isn’t that what your provider warned you of? Starkey does build the best most powerful CIC available,but you can only build in so much power & sophistication in a tiny instrument. What do you have to loose by taking your providers advice? I believe trading a little vanity for better hearing is a super deal!! Wishing us all the best hearing attainable in the New Year, HEARA1
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Funny you should say that, I like BTEs because they are more noticable, and that might send the message to someone that they might wan to speak a little louder and clearer when they speak to me. To Stu, yes, and a new automobile is only a few thousand dollars of metal and plastic. Alls you need to do it get it in the right shape and it is a car!
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<richar…@webtv.net> wrote in message news:8992-41BBCF31-606@storefull-3233.bay.webtv.net… > I have a "profound hearing loss", and wear BTE’s ’cause they do a better > job for me than CIC or ITC…….they are the most powerful. They are > also not that visible. My hearing loss developed in my late 40’s and > early 50’s (I’m 56). Its resulted in numerous problems……job loss, > relationship gone bad, and money problems. > When I feel down about it, I try and think about those who are > paralyzed, or missing limbs, or living in a cardboard box. Then I know > I don’t have it so bad.
I’d try that, apart from I’ve been stuck at home for the past 3.5 years after a bad road accident letting various docs try and stick my right leg back together :- Life could be worse, at least I’ve still got my leg and there’s a good chance it’ll mend
Richard
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"HEARA1" <hea…@aol.com> wrote in message news:20041212165853.06002.00001301@mb-m21.aol.com… > >Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. > >(well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much > >as possible) > >If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, > >I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" well > >enough" now and thats "good enough for me!" > Dear Richard, > It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle for > "good enough". > I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never settle > for "good enough"!!
Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices that a lot of members of the public would have about me, giving me extreme self conciousness. I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me cause they think I can’t hear. I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person. I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf. I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its absolutely necessary cause I hate the things. I do not wish to walk round with a sign around my neck saying "Treat me like a normal bloody person, because I am!", cause thats what I often felt like doing. Either that or just giving up all together and becoming a work from home hermit who has no interaction with other people at all, cause its just too much hassle. When I got my CIC aids my whole life changed. On one side because I wasn’t self aware about them therefore I wear them all the time, giving me better hearing in all situations, and secondly because they were so much better than the NHS dinosaur, and I had two rather than one. For anyone who wears BTEs, isn’t bothered by how other people act & think and so wear them all the time, I’m glad for you and them. For people like me who have put up with the stigma of being obviously deaf since a young kid, given the choice of appearing "normal" with CICs, or still carrying round the deaf stigma and wearing BTEs and probably not wearing them a lot of the time (so being far more isolated from company), it is no choice (provided the hearing loss isn’t that profound so that CICs can still help me) Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing them have a hell of a life. Anything that prevents that is a good thing. Richard
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Richard Wood said: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "HEARA1" <hea…@aol.com> wrote in message > news:20041212165853.06002.00001301@mb-m21.aol.com… >>> Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. >>> (well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much >>> as possible) >>> If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, >>> I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear" well >>> enough" now and thats "good enough for me!" >> Dear Richard, >> It saddens me than anyone with a communicative disability would settle for >> "good enough". >> I wish we all live all facets of life to their fullest potential & never >> settle >> for "good enough"!! > Having visible BTE aids would prevent me from enjoying going out in > public to its fullest potential due to the problems and prejudices > that a lot of members of the public would have about me,giving me > extreme self conciousness.
I lot of us seem to get by okay wearing BTE aids. I’m not aware of "the problems and prejudices that a lot of members of the public would have about me". Am I thick or are you perhaps assuming things that may not be true? > I do not wish people to come right up to my face and shout at me > cause they think I can’t hear.
They don’t do that to me, though occasionally they seem to not mind if I ask them to speak up or repeat themselves. > I do not wish people to just avoid talking to me at all cause they > think it’ll be really difficuly to hold a conversation with a deaf person.
You need to distinguish between deaf and hard of hearing. It _is_ really difficulty to hold a conversation with a deaf person. If I’m honest, it’s actually _me_ who avoids conversation more that others. > I do not wish people to think I’m generally stupid cause I am deaf.
Where does that come from? Who equates deafness with stupidity? You only appear stupid to people who _don’t_ know you have a hearing disability. The rest know _that you didn’t respond (or responded inappropriately) because you didn’t hear. > I do not wish to go back to only wearing (BTE) aids when its > absolutely necessary cause I hate the things.
That much is clear. Now, why do you hate the things that will improve your hearing to a level where you can function reliably? I don’t hate my hearing aids. Nor my glasses. Why is it such a big deal for you? > I do not wish to walk round with a sign around my neck saying > "Treat me like a normal bloody person, because I am!", > cause > thats what I often felt like doing.
Good, I suggest you don’t do that then. (Why would you?) > Either that or just giving up > all together and becoming a work from home hermit who has > no interaction with other people at all, cause its just too much > hassle.
I know that feeling. It’s hard when you have trouble haring and I now avoid places where I know I won’t be able to have a conversation. But hearing aids help. > When I got my CIC aids my whole life changed.
So did mine. > On one side because > I wasn’t self aware about them therefore I wear them all the time, > giving me better hearing in all situations, and secondly because they > were so much better than the NHS dinosaur, and I had two rather than > one. > For anyone who wears BTEs, isn’t bothered by how other people > act & think and so wear them all the time, I’m glad for you and them.
Well, that’s me but I had to decided that I _shouldn’t_ be embarrassed about them any more than anyone should be embarrassed about, say, wearing glasses or a prosthetic limb. > For people like me who have put up with the stigma of being > obviously deaf since a young kid, given the choice of appearing > "normal" with CICs, or still carrying round the deaf stigma and > wearing BTEs and probably not wearing them a lot of the time > (so being far more isolated from company), it is no choice > (provided the hearing loss isn’t that profound so that CICs > can still help me)
Kids are horrible. They’ll do almost anything to upset other kids; hit them, call them names, and yes, poke fun at their disabilities. If you had hearing aids at school you probably suffered this and probably ‘learnt’ that ‘people’ think there’s a stigma attached to wearing them. You’ve grown up, perhaps those who used to poke fun at you have, too. Look, maybe there _is_ a stigma attached to being hard of hearing but I think it’s borne mostly out of ignorance. As long as you agree that it’s something to be embarrassed about, wear CIC’s which are no longer loud enough so that people don’t notice your aids, wear flesh coloured aids (why don’t we treat them like the frames of our glasses?) and generally try to hide your hearing disability, then you reinforce the stigma. > Hearing fails as we get older, so older people wearing BTE aids > are common and do not look out of place. Young kids wearing > them have a hell of a life.
If that is true, (and I didn’t need aids till middle-age), I think we need to address the notion that a hearing disability is something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. Trying to hide our hearing disabilities isn’t the way. > Anything that prevents that is a good > thing.
Agreed but kids are pretty sharp. They’ll soon notice CIC aids in the people in their classroom. They need to learn that the wearing oh hearing aids is not something to be ashamed of anymore than is the wearing of a pair of glasses. Steve = : ^ )
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On 11 Dec 2004 05:16:00 -0800, sideb_…@yahoo.com (bido) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->hi all, >i am a 30 y/o male with hearing impairement. i inherited this issue >from my dad who is also HOH (I am the youngest of 4 children, the >other 3 are fine). my hearing started to manfiest when i was 10 y/o >and I started wearing a hearing aid on my right ear when i was around >14 (the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing >aids). i started with a viennatone one then moved to a starkey and >then another analog CIC starkey since 98 (it died yesterday after >breaking down twice before but fixed). my hearing has deterioted over >the years especially the last few ones. yesterday, my new audiologiest >here in montreal called me (one hour before the old hearing aid broke >down!) to inform me that the digital hearing aid that i ordered few >weeks ago is ready (a starkey as well). the audiologist recommended >that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t >bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted >that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the >hearing aid. i am trying the hearing aid now and I am very >disappointed! to the point that i am seriously depressed. i don’t see >any difference at all comparing to the analog one. actually, right >now, the sounds that i need to hear i either hear them very low or not >at all while useless sounds like when typing on the keyboard or the >sound of something that falls on the floor is so loud it is giving me >a headache. the hearing aid comes with a small button that let’s you >cycle through 3 different programs. that’s another joke, i actually >wonder if they ever tested it. other than the 1st program which the >default, i can’t pretty much hear anything with the other 2. >if this is what hearing aids companies got to invent after all these >years then i think they should all get fired.
FIRST…what is your hearing loss profile??? For example, I have a steep drop above 2K of about -65db, in both ears. SECOND…TOTALLY forget the CIC’s, as they are NOT an option if you want to hear the very best that you may, as you describe your hearing loss! Move to a Pair of powerful Digital BTE hearing aids such as the Triano 3P’s, or equivalent. Being hearing impaired, and utilizing the best hearing aids, for your apparent degree of hearing loss, is a partnership, between you and your audiologist. DO NOT limit that, by insisting upon CIC’s! Why would you not possibly want the BTE’s that seem apparent for your hearing loss solution? Best Regards, Serpent
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hi all, i am a 30 y/o male with hearing impairement. i inherited this issue from my dad who is also HOH (I am the youngest of 4 children, the other 3 are fine). my hearing started to manfiest when i was 10 y/o and I started wearing a hearing aid on my right ear when i was around 14 (the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing aids). i started with a viennatone one then moved to a starkey and then another analog CIC starkey since 98 (it died yesterday after breaking down twice before but fixed). my hearing has deterioted over the years especially the last few ones. yesterday, my new audiologiest here in montreal called me (one hour before the old hearing aid broke down!) to inform me that the digital hearing aid that i ordered few weeks ago is ready (a starkey as well). the audiologist recommended that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the hearing aid. i am trying the hearing aid now and I am very disappointed! to the point that i am seriously depressed. i don’t see any difference at all comparing to the analog one. actually, right now, the sounds that i need to hear i either hear them very low or not at all while useless sounds like when typing on the keyboard or the sound of something that falls on the floor is so loud it is giving me a headache. the hearing aid comes with a small button that let’s you cycle through 3 different programs. that’s another joke, i actually wonder if they ever tested it. other than the 1st program which the default, i can’t pretty much hear anything with the other 2. if this is what hearing aids companies got to invent after all these years then i think they should all get fired.
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My beef is that if you look at the advances and price-drops other electronic devices, most notably digital cameras and computers, have made in just a few years, hearing aids are still quite expensive. If hearing aids made that kind of progress, we would all be wearing Trianos and they would only cost about $200 a pair! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Serpent wrote: > On 11 Dec 2004 05:16:00 -0800, sideb_…@yahoo.com (bido) wrote: >>hi all, >>i am a 30 y/o male with hearing impairement. i inherited this issue >>from my dad who is also HOH (I am the youngest of 4 children, the >>other 3 are fine). my hearing started to manfiest when i was 10 y/o >>and I started wearing a hearing aid on my right ear when i was around >>14 (the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing >>aids). i started with a viennatone one then moved to a starkey and >>then another analog CIC starkey since 98 (it died yesterday after >>breaking down twice before but fixed). my hearing has deterioted over >>the years especially the last few ones. yesterday, my new audiologiest >>here in montreal called me (one hour before the old hearing aid broke >>down!) to inform me that the digital hearing aid that i ordered few >>weeks ago is ready (a starkey as well). the audiologist recommended >>that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t >>bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted >>that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the >>hearing aid. i am trying the hearing aid now and I am very >>disappointed! to the point that i am seriously depressed. i don’t see >>any difference at all comparing to the analog one. actually, right >>now, the sounds that i need to hear i either hear them very low or not >>at all while useless sounds like when typing on the keyboard or the >>sound of something that falls on the floor is so loud it is giving me >>a headache. the hearing aid comes with a small button that let’s you >>cycle through 3 different programs. that’s another joke, i actually >>wonder if they ever tested it. other than the 1st program which the >>default, i can’t pretty much hear anything with the other 2. >>if this is what hearing aids companies got to invent after all these >>years then i think they should all get fired. > FIRST…what is your hearing loss profile??? > For example, I have a steep drop above 2K of about -65db, in both > ears. > SECOND…TOTALLY forget the CIC’s, as they are NOT an option if you > want to hear the very best that you may, as you describe your hearing > loss! > Move to a Pair of powerful Digital BTE hearing aids such as the > Triano 3P’s, or equivalent. > Being hearing impaired, and utilizing the best hearing aids, for your > apparent degree of hearing loss, is a partnership, between you and > your audiologist. > DO NOT limit that, by insisting upon CIC’s! > Why would you not possibly want the BTE’s that seem apparent for your > hearing loss solution? > Best Regards, > Serpent
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That would work if you could buy the testing and programming software and hardware interface to program your $200 HA. And if you could do your own programming. Otherwise, your fitter/audie will earn his/her money for the several visits catering to your fitting. When you visit your doctor at $100+ a pop, how many minutes does he actually spend with you? How long does your audie have to spend getting it "right"? And would you do business with him/her if his office was in his hat? And wouldn’t it be great if no one in the world had more spending power than either you or I? On Sat, 11 Dec 2004 18:51:43 GMT, Bruce Coryell <bcory…@chesco.com> wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->My beef is that if you look at the advances and price-drops other >electronic devices, most notably digital cameras and computers, have >made in just a few years, hearing aids are still quite expensive. If >hearing aids made that kind of progress, we would all be wearing >Trianos and they would only cost about $200 a pair! >Serpent wrote: >> On 11 Dec 2004 05:16:00 -0800, sideb_…@yahoo.com (bido) wrote: >>>hi all, >>>i am a 30 y/o male with hearing impairement. i inherited this issue >>>from my dad who is also HOH (I am the youngest of 4 children, the >>>other 3 are fine). my hearing started to manfiest when i was 10 y/o >>>and I started wearing a hearing aid on my right ear when i was around >>>14 (the left year is useless plus i didn’t want to wear two hearing >>>aids). i started with a viennatone one then moved to a starkey and >>>then another analog CIC starkey since 98 (it died yesterday after >>>breaking down twice before but fixed). my hearing has deterioted over >>>the years especially the last few ones. yesterday, my new audiologiest >>>here in montreal called me (one hour before the old hearing aid broke >>>down!) to inform me that the digital hearing aid that i ordered few >>>weeks ago is ready (a starkey as well). the audiologist recommended >>>that i would go with a bigger hearing aid, she said the CIC can’t >>>bring you more than what the current analog one provides. i insisted >>>that i would stick to CIC because i have issues with the size of the >>>hearing aid. i am trying the hearing aid now and I am very >>>disappointed! to the point that i am seriously depressed. i don’t see >>>any difference at all comparing to the analog one. actually, right >>>now, the sounds that i need to hear i either hear them very low or not >>>at all while useless sounds like when typing on the keyboard or the >>>sound of something that falls on the floor is so loud it is giving me >>>a headache. the hearing aid comes with a small button that let’s you >>>cycle through 3 different programs. that’s another joke, i actually >>>wonder if they ever tested it. other than the 1st program which the >>>default, i can’t pretty much hear anything with the other 2. >>>if this is what hearing aids companies got to invent after all these >>>years then i think they should all get fired. >> FIRST…what is your hearing loss profile??? >> For example, I have a steep drop above 2K of about -65db, in both >> ears. >> SECOND…TOTALLY forget the CIC’s, as they are NOT an option if you >> want to hear the very best that you may, as you describe your hearing >> loss! >> Move to a Pair of powerful Digital BTE hearing aids such as the >> Triano 3P’s, or equivalent. >> Being hearing impaired, and utilizing the best hearing aids, for your >> apparent degree of hearing loss, is a partnership, between you and >> your audiologist. >> DO NOT limit that, by insisting upon CIC’s! >> Why would you not possibly want the BTE’s that seem apparent for your >> hearing loss solution? >> Best Regards, >> Serpent
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"Serpent" <t…@none.com> wrote in message news:f7vlr09ou6arsipfo5rlrdft9in7pmt32l@4ax.com… > Why would you not possibly want the BTE’s that seem apparent for your > hearing loss solution?
For me its because I do not want to be discriminated against, or have people "stare" at me because I’m obviously deaf. I’ve worn two CIC aids for 5 years and have just ordered two replacement CIC aids. I did consider the next size up (almost in canal or something) that had dual microphones, soley for the purpose of having directionality functionality in the aid but decided against it, as I consider that CIC aid takes advantage of the natural acoustics of the human ear. Before this I wore one National Health BTE aid for about 25+ years. (well, I wore it only when I absolutely needed to, taking it out as much as possible) If my deafness was that severe I needed BTE aids I would have them, but its not. (yet
I’ve no doubt that I could hear a bit better with BTEs, but I can hear well enough now and thats good enough for me! Richard
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